When Guilt Turns To Shame.
Have you ever done something or not done something and experienced guilt because of it? Ah, I am sure you have. If you were to walk a day… A morning in my shoes, you would see that I deal with guilt. Always questioning myself–did I spend enough time with my kids today? Did I overreact when my kids, asked me if they could watch something on the iPad for the millionth time and I ‘raised my voice’ a little louder than normal? Should I have made sure the dishes were done before plopping my head on the pillow? The list goes on and on.
Last night, I had a similar situation– It wasn’t fun and left me experiencing so much guilt. When you end your night eating Doritos chips IN BED, you know it’s bad. Haha… True story.
This morning, my Moms & Babes CityGroup was cancelled due to the crazy rain/thunder storm. If you’re a mom, you know it ain’t fun when you’re getting soaked while strapping your littles into their car seat. So, I thought I’d save us all the chance to get frustrated, overreact or have a moment to then later feel guilty about , and encouraged our mommies to hang with their babes inside, at home.
As I was praying for each of them, I had a BLOG moment and decided to share it with them right then and there, via video! Against my better judgement, I have decided to share this un-edited, crazy looking video with you. Since this Blog is all about the authentic… Well, it doesn’t get more authentic than this. So, be kind, don’t rewind. Haha. (Only my VHS watching people who rented videos from the video store will get that joke)
Maybe you’re not a mom, but maybe you are always second guessing yourself, and guilt has plagued you. Maybe you have done something that justifys guilt, I want to encourage you today to let it go! Ask for forgiveness, forgive yourself and move on. This morning, after I sent this video to my mommy friends, I called my kids into the room and asked for forgiveness. They surely had moved on from it, but I hadn’t. Asking for forgiveness helped me move on.
I would like to also add–guilt is not a bad thing to experience. It’s when we allow guilt to grow into/ turn into shame that it becomes toxic. Guilt allows us to see our error.. It allows us to seek forgiveness and move on. So, although we might categorize it as guilt, often times we are experiencing shame.
Every week, I highlight a TRUTH about you, your life, or about a situation you may be facing, and then I DARE you to believe it.
TRUTH: “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.” Romans 8:1
DARE: Ask for forgiveness, forgive yourself, move on.
My hubby recently shared a message on FORGIVENESS–I think all of us should hear it, it changed me. Check it out here www.influenceculture.org